When we discovered that I was an ideal candidate for IVF several years ago, I was elated! My husband, however, was apprehensive. I am the “seize the moment” type of person, where my husband is the more logical, big picture personality. I saw the opportunity to have a family… He saw the possible moral dilemma we would be facing in the future.
We were blessed to have three positive pregnancies from two IVF transfers! The first resulted in a healthy baby boy, the second unfortunately ended in miscarriage, but the third was with triplets! Our family was now complete.
But we still had four embryos.
After years and years of struggling with what to do, we eventually decided that we would try to transfer them ourselves. However, the Lord had other plans. I was diagnosed with chronic Lyme disease and my doctor strongly advised against us trying to get pregnant again with the remaining embryos. We prayed and searched for options when the Lord opened doors that ultimately led us to the Snowflakes Embryo Adoption Program. We had no idea that such a program existed! Once we heard about Nightlight and their embryo adoption program, we knew that this was the right path for us and our embryos.
At first it was not easy. It took years for us to finalize the process—not because it was difficult, but because I was struggling with whether I could go through with the adoption. I still was not ready to surrender completely. But when I did, my heart was changed forever!
In the beginning, my heart would sink into my stomach with every email from the agency. Especially when they announced they had found a match for our family. I was not sure my heart could handle it. But when I read Jason and Laura’s profile, I thought back to the days when I too yearned for a child of my own and knew the pain they were going through. I knew that we were given the opportunity to help them.
I knew that all I had been through my entire life, the struggles with being infertile, the miscarriage, the high-risk pregnancies, weeks in the NICU, were all leading to this moment in my life. It was at that moment, that I had peace.
We both agreed to have open communication via email. We have been in touch with Jason and Laura throughout this whole process. Unfortunately, their first transfer with the embryos did not result in a thriving pregnancy. However, we all know that God is good and that we are giving these precious embryos every chance at life.
We are eternally grateful for Jason and Laura and are praying for a successful IVF transfer in the next few months. We are so thankful for the Snowflakes Adoption Program and pray that our story helps another couple in our situation.
Perhaps you have remaining embryos in frozen storage. Would you consider placing them for adoption? Would you like to bless another family with the opportunity to be parents? To learn more about embryo donation and adoption, visit EmbryoAdoption.org.
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