There are many misconceptions when it comes to an open embryo adoption. It only takes one person to misunderstand something and then share their thoughts with another for it to have the opportunity to take root and affect the thinking and actions of others. Whether you want to donate your remaining embryos or receive embryos to grow your family, you may encounter several misconceptions surrounding these opportunities.
Families donating their embryos may have their own misconceptions.
“I do not want to be contacted all the time or feel like I must drop what I am doing to respond.”
“On the other hand, I also want to know if the children are okay, and they are living life well…”
“I just don’t know what to do, the whole thing makes me a little nervous.”
Likewise, the recipient families may have a similar internal dialogue.
“What if they show up at my door, uninvited? Or want to manage how I raise my kids.”
“ I do not want to feel like I am constantly looking over my shoulder, worrying about what the genetic parents may think of me.”
If you find yourself feeling fearful and reserved about moving forward with an open embryo adoption or donation because of details you heard from the grapevine, we encourage you to do some research on the benefits and reality of open adoption.
So, what are some of the misconceptions and actual truths?
“I am going to be constantly bombarded with emails, texts, calls from the other family.”
False: While drawing up the contract, both parties agree on a communication plan that works for each of them.
“If we have an open relationship, the adoptive children will be confused by who are their parents.”
False: While adopted children may come to appreciate their genetic relatives, it is the family who raised them that they think of and refer to as family, i.e., mom and dad, who are and who will always be their parents.
“If I keep the door open, I will be obligated to support the children in the future in some way.”
False: Once you transfer the embryos into the care of the recipient family, they become part of their family, and their parents will make provisions for them and their future.
Be encouraged, the benefits of open adoption far outweigh any concerns one might have. Don’t take my word for it; check it out for yourself. That way you can make an informed decision. In the end you will be glad you did!
To learn more about open embryo adoption and donation, visit EmbryoAdoption.org.