One of the best practices of adoption is to encourage communication between the family placing their child for adoption and the family adopting the child. Adoption researchers discovered that keeping the information surrounding an adoption a secret was not helpful to the child, the adopting family, or the placing family. Think about this right now: How would you feel if you discovered today you were not the genetic child of your parents? There are many adjectives to use to describe the feelings an adult child might feel upon making this discovery – none of them tend to be positive words.
Many of the reasons adopting families think they prefer to keep their adoption a secret have to do with their feelings, their ego and their protection. This focus on one’s self is not a healthy position to take as a new parent and certainly is not beneficial to the child being adopted.
Embryo adoption professionals also encourage openness between the genetic parents placing their embryos and the adopting family receiving them. They encourage families to learn how to communicate with one another at a mutually comfortable level. They encourage parents to learn how to communicate with their children about the unique way they came into the family.
Angela Tucker, a woman adopted through the U.S. foster care system recently produced a documentary about her efforts to find her biological parents. Called Closure, the film is an example of adopted adult’s need to discover information about her.
Families participating in embryo adoption have the opportunity to establish a good foundation of information and communication to support their children throughout their life journey.
It’s worth thinking about.
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